Ages ago, I was tagged by Nita and Sulz and till now I have been shamelessly ignoring the tags. But the guilt is killing me and I must finish the task assigned to me. Keeping the melodrama aside, I’ll start with Nita’s tag. This is what she tagged me to write about.

What does Feminism means to me

First of all, I was not sure what the word meant, so I landed up in an online dictionary and this is what popped up there : 

fem·i·nism n.  

1. Belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.

2. The movement organized around this belief.
Ahem! Well, I think, the socio economic structure of the society in which we live plays an important role in determining the level of the “movement”. When the First wave came, India was still fighting for its freedom and there was no way it could have affected her. When the second wave came in the 1960s, India was all up and ready for it. Even today when we are in the third wave, an American society is much mature when it comes to a woman choosing the kind of life she wants to lead. In India, we still beat up the girl if she falls in love with a guy outside her cast. Infact, even if you compare the freedom given to women in a city with a small town/village in India, you would be shocked by the difference. After three waves, we still have to go a long way in India. Even after having laws in place, there are rapes, sexual feminism1harassment, forced abortions, forced reproductions, domestic violence etc and what not! People still think that women are vulnerable because they are weak but its just because of the kind of environment we are all brought up in. I am sure any woman who is a black belt in Karate can throw me two feet towards the sky with a single chop. 🙂
The problem is in our brains. We are wired in a wrong fashion from the time we are born. Women are not born vulnerable but are taught to be so. Similarly men are not born strong. They pick it up from what they see in their family and surroundings. I could never understand how we reached a stage where a human has to ask for her rights? And what surprises me is that we are still there. 
All these issues are way too big, but people need to understand the basic rights of an individual. I can understand when a father asks her daughter to return home before twilight because raping a girl is becoming an activity as common as wiping your ass with a tissue. But, I cannot understand when he asks her to forget the guy she loves because he does not belong to the same community. I find that laughable. Similarly, I don’t believe that a homemaker is worse off than a working woman. Its a very individual choice and depends on many factors. Equality of sexes certainly does not mean that a woman has to work to be a true blue feminist. 
It all boils down to the theory of Live and let live. We all make sacrifices in our life, but let’s not force someone to make a sacrifice because of her gender.

The alphabet A

aSulz’s tag. I have to write 7(?) words starting with alphabet A. I am putting up words which describe me. Here goes :

Absurd – Yes!Yes! I am ridiculous, illogical and senseless at times, but then even God is sometimes! So you see, no one is perfect. 😛 

Able – Leaving aside the fact that I am destiny’s favourite toy, I am quite able if I am left to my own means. If I find something interesting enough, I’ll take it up with perfect dexterity till the time I get completely bored of it. I told you I was absurd! 😛

Assiduous – I have obtained this quality from my Mom. Whenever I have to shop for clothes and I take her with me, she picks up clothes which are poles apart from my taste and then both of us “assiduously” attempt to disparage each other. 😐 Well, I consider it to be a good quality. Atleast I pick up clothes of my choice and I always win! 🙂

Aloof – I can be alarmingly aloof with strangers, so much that I am mistaken as an Egotist whose nose is always at an angle of 80 degrees from the ground. Many of my friends were surprised when they dared to know me better after that initial cold shoulder. 

Amiable – Well! That is what I actually become once I allow you to be my friend. 🙂 Its a difficult path and only a few daredevils have dared. 😛

Anchor – Whenever I become a part of a group, I end up becoming the anchor which holds the group together after everyone moves away to their new life/city. I met a group of friends recently after 7 years and again(!!!!) it was me who made all the phone calls and arranged the meeting. Good old Amit!

The awards

Finally, the awards. I was given the Friendship Embracelet by Kiran sometime back and the Garland Award by Kanagu. Thankyou both of you. 🙂

friendshipembracelet

 

garland

That is all guys and girls. Over and out.

About the Author:

Amit Sharma is the Author of fiction novel False Ceilings published by Lifi Publications in January 2016.
Amit always keeps a book and a portable reading light in his bag (much to the amusement of his fellow travellers). His other hobbies include watching world cinema, travelling, staring at hills, digging into various cuisines, cooking, listening to music, painting, blogging, making his daughter laugh and helping his wife with her unnecessary and prolonged shopping.
He is currently working on his Second novel which is a thriller.

35 Comments

  1. sulz January 16, 2009 at 6:34 pm - Reply

    10, darling. 😉 i forgot i tagged you actually, haha! i’m just like you – aloof initially, amiable later, and absurd finally if i’m really close to someone. lol.

  2. Ram Venkatararam January 16, 2009 at 6:52 pm - Reply

    I always enjoy seeing the word assidious. My list would include anti-social, arbitrary, anxious, aggresive, alienated…

    Ouch, I had no idea it would be that easy, or that depressing.

    Thanks for the post.

  3. Davis January 16, 2009 at 6:59 pm - Reply

    Very interesting reading to someone who’s visited India several times and wondered about such a concept there. Thanks for the post

  4. Reema January 16, 2009 at 7:58 pm - Reply

    Looks like I am the only one remaining to do the feminism tag. 🙂 Nice post.

  5. Deeps January 16, 2009 at 8:09 pm - Reply

    Wooow….a big nice masala post buddy!! 🙂

  6. Vijaya Bharat January 16, 2009 at 9:36 pm - Reply

    The word ‘Feminism’ is having a different meaning in ‘India’ as far as I know. Nobody takes the true meaning as it is and try to discourage or atleast laugh if somebody expresses this word in their conversation. This is all because our country is a big male dominated one like most of the Asian countries where Woman is to serve Man.

    I like the picture of the Alphabet very much. Once, I used to do the job of Anchor like you but after hearing the people’s excuses to escape, I dont want to do it any more. Only time knows whether I will keep it or not.

    Belated Pongal wishes 2 u 🙂

  7. Nita January 16, 2009 at 9:52 pm - Reply

    It is always very interesting to hear men talk about Feminism and I liked your take on it and the visual too. Yeah, women are human beings too! As you said Feminism has not reached India even today and even then as Vijaya says the very mention it frightens men so much that they ridicule it. We have a long way to go.
    Thanks for doing the tag.

  8. Arpit January 16, 2009 at 11:54 pm - Reply

    nice post ! 😛
    a child is like clay…….it molds up as you want. then why cant the girl child be molded up to be strong and brave…….times are changing but as nita said we still have a long way to go

  9. vishesh unni raghunathan January 17, 2009 at 11:01 am - Reply

    I am reading this book called Red Queen..its about evolution..It has different explanation for whole male dominance etc..

  10. Dev January 17, 2009 at 12:55 pm - Reply

    Nice!

  11. Den Relojo January 17, 2009 at 4:14 pm - Reply

    Feminism is equality. Feminism is a message that says, “Difference should not make a difference.”

  12. Nikhil January 17, 2009 at 6:20 pm - Reply

    Strangely, though you and me differ a bit in our opinions on feminism, never fail to pick up chicks! 😀

  13. odzer January 18, 2009 at 2:51 am - Reply

    Hmmmm feminism like most other ‘ism’s is something that has been made up. Equality is a vague and a subjective concept, not something that can be measured or defined. In such a situation I find it strange that some people want to spend time equalising the genders. Men and Women are just different creatures. It is merely a question of how best to learn how to adjust with each other.

    There are a lot of women out there that want to spend time trying to prove that they can do whatever a man can do. I do not often see men trying to do the same. I guess perhaps its the women themselves who must come to terms with their own identity first of all before anything else can be defined.

    I find your blog interesting, I am hoping to explore more of it in the coming days.

  14. Nimmy January 18, 2009 at 6:49 pm - Reply

    🙂

    the tag is done beautifully..

    People still think that women are vulnerable because they are weak but its just because of the kind of environment we are all brought up in..

    Exactly..However,I am of opinion that men and women are two different mammals and hence of different characteristics..comparing them and trying to be like the other will not help any way..

    “Amiable – Well! That is what I actually become once I allow you to be my friend” -I hope you don’t mind making me your friend 🙂

    I liked the confidence in you when you say ‘Able’ 🙂 Good luck

    Good day

  15. Amit January 18, 2009 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    @Sulz : OH! That was deliberate. I couldn’t find ten good words to describe me. 🙂 And glad to know that I am not the only one who is crazy. 😀

    @Ram : Welcome! And your list is quite amusing. Anti-social? 🙂

    @Davis : Thanks and Welcome! 🙂

    @Reema : Yes, you are the only one left! Do it soon. 🙂

    @Deeps : Thanks! 🙂

    @Vijaya Bharat : Yes, generally its a topic only used in page3 parties or when you have to make fun of someone. People don’t care that the basic things like providing a woman with equal rights is also a part of the movement.
    Anchor only works when everyone want to be each other. Otherwise there is no point. 🙂 And belated Pongal wishes to you too!

  16. Amit January 18, 2009 at 8:43 pm - Reply

    @Nita : Thanks. 🙂 Yes, its sad that its just a topic used for fun. And you are welcome! 🙂

    @Arpit : Thanks! 😛 We don’t mould them that way and it happens very sub conciously. Yes, its a long road ahead.

    @Vishesh : Hmmm..interesting.

    @Dev : Thanks!

    @Den Relojo : Yes. Very true.

    @Nikhil : You are mixing milk in wine. 🙂

    @Odzer : Welcome to my blog. 🙂 I think that we are in a situation where people tend to equalize the genders because somewhere in our history and present, there are people who tend to do just the opposite. If a woman tries to prove that she is equivalent to a man, I consider it a good sign. 🙂

    @Nimmy : Thanks. 🙂 Well, yes, comparing them will be wrong but belittling one gender is unacceptable too.
    Oh! I don’t mind making anyone my friend. You can have friends only when you are truely blessed. 🙂

  17. Solilo... January 19, 2009 at 12:43 am - Reply

    First time here I guess.

    I am with you on ‘aloof’ tag. I have been misjudged as a snob many times because of that. I gel with some fast and with some I need time. Us humans have so many shades 🙂

    I like your take on feminism and that letter ‘A’ picture. Will come back often.

  18. vimmuuu January 19, 2009 at 9:38 am - Reply

    Among all the takes on feminism with this tag, I liked this the best. I guess its because some of the points there do relate to my life. Nicely done !

    Never knew alphabets could reveal a lot about a person. and Aloof and Assidous was more like those ‘make- sentences-with-a-word’ question in school 😀

    and congrats on the awards man !

    Btw, I feel your previous header was better !

  19. 1conoclast January 19, 2009 at 4:18 pm - Reply

    Hey! I got into a lot of trouble with my response to the Feminism tag! 😀

    I like the way you started it. With a definition. The way we started essays in school.

    If I’d have just said that I agree with 1. but not entirely with 2., I’d have been in less trouble!

    You’re not the Amit I keep squabbling with on right-wing blogs are you?

  20. Oxy January 19, 2009 at 5:21 pm - Reply

    A paki girl student in Mumbai gets beaten up by a guy who is part of local NGO and his mother, why? cuz girl had ‘Thank You God’ tattooed on her back… She was disturbed and left for Pakistan whereas the guy is happy that she has left India.. What is it? Which age we are living in?

    That ‘Aloof’ reminded me of a dialogue Rober De Niro’s character says in ‘Heat’ to his GF: “I am alone, I’m not lonely” . It’s such a thin line.. 😉

    Congrats for the awards..

  21. 1conoclast January 19, 2009 at 6:21 pm - Reply

    Didn’t mean right-wing blogs. Meant right-wing Amit on blogs.

    Doesn’t seem like you. Sorry for even suggesting something like that!

  22. Chirag January 19, 2009 at 6:49 pm - Reply

    Ek post teen tag ahh, brilliant. Nice read 🙂 and congrats on the awards.

  23. Smita January 19, 2009 at 10:19 pm - Reply

    lol at u n ur Mom’s shopping experience 😀

    Didn’t read the feminism part though so no comments there 😉

  24. Liju Philip January 20, 2009 at 6:01 am - Reply

    Feminism is a pass time for those jhola carrying or high society aunties. They debate about the equality of women in the parties but back home, they dont have any qualms whacking the shit out of their maidservant or burning their daughter-in-law for bringing in less dowry.

    They are just the scum of the society like the religious and other chauvinists.

  25. Alice January 20, 2009 at 12:18 pm - Reply

    super neat….!

  26. Amit January 20, 2009 at 11:06 pm - Reply

    @Solilo : Welcome!!! Regarding “aloof”, I am so glad that to know that it is not an uncommon disease. 🙂 Thanks and keep coming!

    @Vimmuuu : Thanks! 🙂 I was supposed to use 10 words, but I couldn’t go beyond 7! 🙁 I keep on changing my header depending on the theme. 🙂

    @1conoclast : Did you! 🙂 And no I am not that Amit. There are very few things on which I don’t have an opinion and wings are one of them. 🙂

    @Oxy : I call such people educated animals. No matter how much you educate a dog, he will still bark. Some people are born losers.
    And Thanks. 🙂

    @Chirag : Yeah! they were pending from a long time. Thanks. 🙂

    @Smita : 🙂 Why? Why? WHY?? 🙁

    @Liju : Hmmm…well I will not entirely agree with you. There is certainly an awareness from the past few years.

    @Alice : Thanks. 🙂

  27. Smita January 21, 2009 at 9:51 am - Reply

    Why???

    Just Like that 🙂

  28. exuvia January 21, 2009 at 8:05 pm - Reply

    Amit, help me out here…

    What is this business of being tagged? So far I have deleted every ‘so and so’ has tagged you. I thought it was an intent to enroll me in some new online community and I just do not have that much time at my disposal. Why do people tag you and how do they get to know about you?

    Share your knowledge and enlighten me.

    Greetings
    Exuvia

  29. Amit January 23, 2009 at 10:50 pm - Reply

    @Smita : Hmmm!!! 😛

    @Exuvia : Welcome! Well, the people who will tag you will be fellow bloggers who must be reading your blog and vice versa. Unknown people are never going to tag you and if that happened with you then it must be a spam.

  30. harsh January 24, 2009 at 1:46 am - Reply

    well congrats for the awards mr. anchor ….

  31. IndianHomemaker January 25, 2009 at 11:49 am - Reply

    First time here, and what a pleasant surprise 🙂

    Loved your take on Feminism. Awesome.
    And love that badge & the message on it too …

    Today I had a comment from an Amit … it wasn’t you I guess 🙂

  32. IndianHomemaker January 25, 2009 at 11:51 am - Reply

    And I think this sums up, It all boils down to the theory of Live and let live. We all make sacrifices in our life, but let’s not force someone to make a sacrifice because of her gender.

    Well said. Blog Rolling you …

  33. Amit January 26, 2009 at 10:45 am - Reply

    @Harsh : Thanks! 🙂

    @IndianHomemaker : Welcome!! 🙂 I am glad that you liked it. And, nope I was not that Amit. I have left a few comments on your blog but they were by the name of Mashedmusings. 🙂 Keep visiting!

  34. Namrata Das May 7, 2009 at 9:17 pm - Reply

    Hi Amit. I am a student of NUJS, Kolkatta currently working at Breakthrough, Delhi. This post is most interestingly written and very sensitively deals with the most pertinent issue of feminism. And you have managed to put the issue in focus quite well.
    Well, I work on a youth oriented site called http://www.bellbajao.org and would love for you to blog on it. We have blogs on similar styles and themes, spotlighting those individuals and groups of people who work around the issue of Domestic Violence in particular and Violence against women in general, partnering and collaborating with women who are deeply entrenched in the fight for gender equality.
    Your posts phenomenally portrays the meaning of feminism in your own perspective. We would like to hear your thoughts on domestic violence.

    Please visit the site and do write back to me at namrata_2224@hotmail.com about your thoughts on the campaign.And if you’re interested, do blog on the site as well. And if you’re a regular blogger, we’d be happy to put you on our blogroll and crosslink your blog page on our site.

    Thanks and hoping to hear from you,
    Namrata

    • Amit May 9, 2009 at 1:41 am - Reply

      Hi Namrata,
      I am glad that you liked the post and Thank you very much for the offer. I visited the website and found it very interesting. I would have loved to blog at the site but I am really hard pressed for time right now. I am just a visitor at my own blog at times. 🙂
      I hope you will understand. Thanks.

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