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Going abroad is not a distant dream anymore. In fact, come summers and the Indian streets seem deserted (if you do not consider dogs and beggars) as most of us are ‘holidaying’ abroad. Europe, South East Asia, Amrika – you name the place and you will find Indians sitting in Indian restaurants, sucking a chicken leg with a noise loud enough to shatter the lens of the Hubble.

Indians going abroad is a welcome change when the roads back home seem a bit cleaner in their absence which in turn give some relief to the sweepers. It also gives me some sort of sadistic pleasure. The tourist destinations that boast of their superior infrastructure are tested to their limits. For how long can we curb the urge to throw that stained tissue on the road? For how long can we restrain ourselves from leaving a mark on the country in the form on a single straight stain on a wall that runs down to form a puddle? There are times when we would like to spit on the spotless roads, when we would like to honk the hired convertible to glory. No wonder Indians breathe a spit of relief the moment they land in their beloved motherland and throw the slurped paper plate of Dahi Bhalle on the road with tears in their eyes. They are doing a national service, they are helping the sweepers to retain their jobs and put food into the mouth of their army of kids.

Monalisa DeshpandeWhat I find a bit disturbing is the way nationals of other countries behave in the presence of an Indian dipped in his culture.  Taking an example – We love to put Champakali, Chameli and Coconut oil in our hair. It is a recipe for our lush hair that has been passed through generations. Then why do we see people wrinkle their nose all around us when we go abroad? Don’t they get the exotic aroma rising from our head? Now we already smell of spices because of the kind of heaped-in-spices and swathed-in-oils food we eat since childhood. Add to that a dash of Champakali on our head and we turn into walking aphrodisiacs. Is the wrinkling because of the fact that we at times forget to use deodorants and smell like a dead rat? But how can that be when the oil and spices are so overpowering to make a person lose his consciousness in ecstasy? Beats me.

We Indians are very colorful people. Ask a foreigner who has been to India and the first thing he will tell you is that he thinks the whole country has gone gay (which actually seems to be a very good idea considering our amoeba like growth). We love our colors so much that we carry them unabashedly to foreign lands. Even when foreigners all around us start wearing sunglasses indoors to save their eyes from the razor-sharp colors or when they hide their faces in the beer mugs because of the sight of the momma made jumper we are wearing, we fail to get the subtle hints. And why should we? What is the harm in adding some colors to their boring grey, blue and black life?

To curb our habit of staring is another monumental task while we are abroad. If anything remotely Caucasian walks by, our jaw hangs dangerously. It is difficult to make a foreigner understand that we stare at anything. It is our way of admiring the beauty of nature. We also point fingers and giggle. It is harmless of course.

Patience is the name of the seventh moon of Jupiter. That is why when we are subjected to the word while in queues in foreign lands, we respond with bewilderment. Why can’t they make a separate line for ladies, senior citizens, children, people in orange clothes, people in whites and people with two legs? How can everyone have so much time on their hand? Don’t they have a daily soap to catch, a maid to manage, a child to batter and a match to watch?

Should we do as the Romans do or should we splash our superior culture all over the world and teach them a thing or two? Why not turn the question the other way around? What do we expect from a person visiting our country? Don’t we expect them to litter the roads, spit till they end up with salivary deficiency, eat and drink food sprinkled with fumes from the roadside stalls and bring out taser guns the moment they see four men walking towards them? So if we would like tourists to be a part of our culture and enjoy their stay here, then why can’t we reciprocate in a similar manner? In the same way that we are all proud of our culture where people leave soiled diapers in Taj Mahal, people from other countries will be proud of their shiny roads and non-aphrodisiacal surrounding and would like us to respect that.

We know its their loss that they miss this chance to bask in our refined and better cultural glory during our stay in their country but we can leave them to their miseries. If we can adjust 7 people (dog included) on a motorbike, we can do this. Don’t you think?

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About the Author:

Amit Sharma is the Author of fiction novel False Ceilings published by Lifi Publications in January 2016.
Amit always keeps a book and a portable reading light in his bag (much to the amusement of his fellow travellers). His other hobbies include watching world cinema, travelling, staring at hills, digging into various cuisines, cooking, listening to music, painting, blogging, making his daughter laugh and helping his wife with her unnecessary and prolonged shopping.
He is currently working on his Second novel which is a thriller.

56 Comments

  1. dhwanis May 8, 2013 at 2:12 pm - Reply

    ahh..you forget to mention those ‘raj loves sweety’, ‘pinky loves b0bby’ etc etc beautifully decorated on the walls of monuments!

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 2:49 pm - Reply

      I was talking more about what we do when we go abroad. 🙂 Back here, I don’t think there is anything we don’t do. Every possible act that negates the presence of a brain is performed back here.

  2. Bhavia May 8, 2013 at 2:25 pm - Reply

    wah Amit ji..let me append your list
    1)using parachute oil as cooking oil (esp we mallus :P)
    2)upon meeting someone,asking about marital status and kids and sympathizing and horrifying if the lady is divorced
    3)talking on top of our voice making a choas
    4)pointing at people and talking and driving them bewildered
    5)making the whole restaurant listen to the rhythm in which you are having food..ummm..ummm..ummmm

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 2:51 pm - Reply

      Yes, I have seen a few of the acts being performed by Indians travelling abroad. 🙂 The worse one is the oil dripping from hair. A person who is not used to the smell of coconut oil might choke to death.

  3. Rachna May 8, 2013 at 2:32 pm - Reply

    Kya baat karte ho. We are very well-mannered when abroad. We drive in lanes, don’t spit and pee on roads, no picking up fights either. No Sir, we are law-abiding model citizens. Apne true colors are reserved for the motherland!

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 2:53 pm - Reply

      Oh yes, we are well mannered but there are certain things we keep doing that might be uncomfortable to other people. The ‘Oil story’ is the one I have witnessed most of the times.

  4. Kay May 8, 2013 at 3:37 pm - Reply

    I’ve lived here for two years and 4 months now and I’ve definitely become a bit Indianized. I don’t litter on the streets or spit (gross), but I’ve become desensitized to poverty to a degree, that I thought would have been impossible when I first got here.

    What I find funny is that my husband who’d Indian (born and raised) seems to get ‘shocked’ every time he witnesses someone throwing out garbage from their car window. He gets all huffy like ‘I can’t believe people get away with doing this’ while I generally have a more jaded response like ‘I don’t really expect anything else.’

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 4:15 pm - Reply

      As per my experience, once you have lived outside India, you really can’t go back to your old self after you come back. I was not able to do so. Honking still irritates me the way it did 3 years back when I landed in India after my 2 years stay in Manchester. You start seeing things in a different light.
      I really don’t know how you have managed to desensitize yourself. 🙂

  5. crazyambivert May 8, 2013 at 4:39 pm - Reply

    Just before reading this, I was fighting with a colleague who loves “littering” the roads in front of me just because I hate it when he does so !

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 9:00 pm - Reply

      People do that? I don’t have words!
      A few days back the driver of my bus wanted me to throw some tissues on the road. He realized his mistake when he got an icy glare and a piece of my mind.

  6. seena May 8, 2013 at 5:18 pm - Reply

    Incredible India, with rich and varied culture ! 🙂

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 9:00 pm - Reply

      Very rich! I almost look at the rest of the world with pity.

  7. Deeps May 8, 2013 at 7:57 pm - Reply

    And have you noticed the high octave we take such great pride in using while we are talking, when holidaying abroad? In fact I feel when we travel abroad, that too in a group, we somehow go deaf and make others around us deaf too with our loud chatter! 😆 🙄

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 9:01 pm - Reply

      I think a lot of us have volume problems. We love to let people know what is going on in our personal lives and expect the favour to be returned.

  8. umashankar May 8, 2013 at 8:54 pm - Reply

    I believe serious outlash against Indians such as the one in Australia in not so distant a past is warning enough.

    • Amit May 8, 2013 at 9:05 pm - Reply

      There was a burglary where I stayed in Manchester. It happened before I moved there. The house faced the road and the curtains of the front windows were always open, displaying three software engineers working on their laptops and listening to music on their iPhones. Very tempting.
      The problem is that we do not try to blend in at all.

  9. Jyoti Mishra May 9, 2013 at 12:35 am - Reply

    Good God that monalisa cracked me laughing..
    How can everyone have so much time on their hand? Don’t they have a daily soap to catch, a maid to manage, a child to batter and a match to watch?

    so much comparison, but so little is worth compring

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:37 am - Reply

      Yes, if you search the internet, you will find Mona Bibi in unbelievable avatars. 🙂

      And, yes. That is true.

  10. Little Fingers May 9, 2013 at 2:45 am - Reply

    Well articulated post and can’t agree more to these. First time here, you have a nice space out here ..

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:38 am - Reply

      Thanks for liking the post Little Fingers and welcome here. 🙂

  11. Priyanka May 9, 2013 at 2:46 am - Reply

    Well written Amit but how can you forget about our rich Elevator etiquettes … If you are stepping out of a elevator, you better rush because people who are coming in will not wait as if elevator is going to leave them behind. People keep coming in till d point the elevator is nt blocked …

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:40 am - Reply

      The elevator etiquette is what binds us together. Whether you are rich or poor, Engineer or sweeper, driver or politician, Brahmin or Shudra – this is something that is same across all divisions. I would say that it is a part of our culture.

      • Priyanka May 13, 2013 at 11:57 pm

        I recently started reading your blog and I must say its always such a pleasure to read it and some of the posts are too hilarious .. you know what after reading review of Raaz 2 on your blog I actually watched the movie which I had no intention of watching ……. I think this is one of the blogs which I have continuously followed other than the great AMITabh ji’s blog 🙂 🙂

      • Amit May 14, 2013 at 11:51 am

        I almost fainted when I read your last line. 😀 Really, you are joking right?
        Anyways, thank you very much for reading and liking this blog. It means a lot when readers like you come ahead and appreciate what I write.
        And you saw Raaz 3? God! I had no idea I was encouraging people!

  12. latha May 9, 2013 at 2:59 am - Reply

    Come on now, don’t be so rude.. I like my navratan tel…:P Forget about foreigners, Amit. My neighbor who moved in recently visited us for a ‘small talk’..you know what I mean..and the scent from her oil cracked my nose. It was over powering. And what are you talking about colors man? I love colors…I love to be colorful..if it blares their eyes, that’s their pblm…why do I care? Seriously? They change colors for every season…are we complaining? Having said all this, my wardrobe had been black, white, cream, grey for the past 2 years…now, does that mean am blending in? 🙁

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:43 am - Reply

      Latha,
      I had some really bad time in UK with those hair oils. People will pour it on their head and come to office! There was this guy in my team who was slowly going bald. He got a medicine from somewhere and used to apply it and come to office. For days we thought he was not taking a bath. He smelled like a dead rat. It was embarrassing!
      I know we like our colorful clothes but they make us stand out in foreign countries. You will get undue attention at times.
      Good that you are blending it. That is the right way to go. 🙂

  13. KayEm May 9, 2013 at 6:40 am - Reply

    Gawking at people and asking very personal questions are my pet peeves. But I’ve met perfectly decent Indians who, if your eyes happen to meet, smile at you and move on.

    Loved the photo of the family on the bike – collapsed laughing when I saw the dog. Of course many would claim (with a touch of snootiness) that it is downright dangerous but who can deny this family have used the limited space on their two wheeler with ingenuity and their friendly smiles and waves gladden hearts?

    • Amit May 12, 2013 at 4:54 pm - Reply

      Haha! I am a very private person, so basically the way Indians behave generally puts me completely in an uncomfortable position. 🙂
      Oh yes! I did not notice the dog earlier either. My first thought on spotting him was that if the bike falls on him with the whole family, he has to be scrapped from the road.
      I don’t think the family even realize that they are breaking the law. The picture is very symbolic in that sense. It perfectly describes the way we live in this country.

  14. Jas May 9, 2013 at 7:36 am - Reply

    Kya baat hai sir ji. volume modulation ka button to indians mein hai hi nahi. Our culture is the only thing on your mind always.

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:44 am - Reply

      Haha! 🙂 I guess we all write about what affects us. 🙂

  15. Ashwathy May 9, 2013 at 10:48 am - Reply

    My jaw dropped while seeing that pic in the first place. I nearly forgot to read your post after that! 😛

    What surprises me is how people turn decent when they go abroad. How many Indians can you see littering the roads in Singapore? Of course not, they fear the law there. The same people will reach back home and start littering left right and centre. Talk about heights of hypocrisy!

    You were in UK right? Have you been to Southall in London? After so many Indians set up shop there, it has turned into a mini-India, complete with hawkers and peddlers and goodness knows what else. I believe the Brits fled the place soon after coz they couldn’t tolerate the mayhem. I have my sympathies for them 😛 just for this once!

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:47 am - Reply

      There was another one with six guys on a bike but I thought this family pic was much better. Look at the way they are waving, completely oblivious to the threat to their lives.
      People abroad turn decent only till they can’t get away. Go to New Jersey, Southhall or Canada, and you will find mini India sprawled there in all its glory.

  16. aarti May 9, 2013 at 12:15 pm - Reply

    I came here from IHM’s blog and boy am i gladi did. Absolutely loved the last sentence in this post. Excellent.

  17. reekycoleslaw May 9, 2013 at 12:20 pm - Reply

    Clearly, the world has much to learn from us. I wish when we go abroad, we teach a thing or hundred to those damned foreigners in the style that our teachers and parents used on us – the small carrot and very large stick approach. If we don’t hit the point home (like, literally) how will they learn?
    I had a smile all the while I read this – brought back New Jersey memories! 😀

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:48 am - Reply

      I agree. The foreigners have no idea how to enjoy their life. What kind of people don’t spit on the roads, don’t litter and don’t honk. I can’t believe they lead such law abiding and boring lives.
      Thanks for liking the post Rickie. 🙂

  18. alkagurha May 9, 2013 at 4:15 pm - Reply

    Amit, last year on a short trip to Malaysia I witnessed all this and more. Kids trampled my feet, women displayed no patience when it came to buffet lunches and men were fashionable late ( IST). It was embarrassing to say the least.

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:50 am - Reply

      I have seen this happen many times. On my trip to Paris, the trip operator told all of us very clearly that the buses will leave on time. If anyone is not able to make it, too bad. That person will then have to take the metro and reach the next destination on his own. A lot of people went straight as an arrow after that.

  19. phoenixritu May 9, 2013 at 6:02 pm - Reply

    ROFL! Reminds me of the British landlady who got curious about what we cooked for lunch, in Suffolk when I was about 6 or 8. Ma had made sambhar. Ma explained the recipe and showed her the sambhar powder. Mrs. Wembly or Wembly (I forget) bent down and took a deep whiff. She was down with cold and flu for a week, her nose and sinuses stood out shocking pink against her white face. Now we are like this only and we like our food like this only. Our sambhar is a WMD!

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:52 am - Reply

      Haha! There was this Brit guy whom we invited to our house and he was horrified by the way we made tea by putting everything in a bowl and boiling it till it turns dark brown. He had a hard time gulping down his tea. 🙂

  20. Jas A. May 9, 2013 at 10:07 pm - Reply

    Nice write up.. good sarcasm is really hard to write and you did a brilliant job.. keep it up 🙂
    The things you’ve mentioned, I’d like to quote Vishal Bhardwaaj here.. don’t know if it’s relevant or not, but your post reminded me of this
    “Desh logon se banta hai, isiliye jo charitra mera hai wo hi mere neta kaa hoga aur wahi mere desh kaa. Jab main aadhyatmic thha tohh desh buddha thha,jab vilasi tohh mihir, main kamzor hua tohh sikandar aaya,toota tohh baabar. Maine vyaapar kiya toh desh ghulam hua, main baagi bana tohh aazad. Main aazad hua tohh swarthi, swarthiu tohh bhrasht “

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:52 am - Reply

      Thanks Jas. 🙂
      Those words are so true. Loved the last line.

  21. purbaray May 10, 2013 at 5:52 am - Reply

    Excooz me? We gave the world zero, Kamasutra, Yoga and Chicken Tikka Masala! Don’t you dare make fun of our superior culture.
    And my sources tell me, spitting will soon be made an Olympic event. Ab to hamara Gold-Silver aur Bronze pucca hai!

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:56 am - Reply

      And do you see how we are degrading in our Yogdans? From zero to chicken tikka – that says it all.
      I am thinking that we can create a record for the longest honk in the history of mankind. We are already so good at that.

  22. onehonestwriter May 10, 2013 at 7:39 pm - Reply

    I don’t know about Rome shome but when in India litter, spit, be loud and clear, be colourful, be smelly, sweaty, eat like you have never eaten,….thts the natural talent we all are born with…..civic sense! Ah wats tht? Tell me. Never heard or seen.

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:57 am - Reply

      We carry the talents with us to foreign lands and display it at every slight chance. Following the laws there is a liability we have to live with.

  23. Jiggyasa May 11, 2013 at 9:54 am - Reply

    Waah waah 🙂 What an amazing writeup…at one point of time I was serious..the very next moment I was giggling. What a balance you ve maintained throughout! lauveedd it 🙂

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 10:58 am - Reply

      Thanks for liking the post Jiggyasa. 🙂

  24. Dagny May 11, 2013 at 10:52 am - Reply

    Seven people on a bike (to say nothing of the dog) is something we can do on our head. But the other stuff… *shakes head mournfully* naaahhh..!

    • Amit May 11, 2013 at 11:07 am - Reply

      I think we are capable of doing a lot of things if law is looking the other way. 🙂

  25. metherebel May 14, 2013 at 10:54 am - Reply

    What baffles me is the fact that the very people who talk about the cleanliness in phoren countries are the ones who do not think twice before throwing the banana peel out of their car windows!!! Incredible India isn’t it?

    That image just made my jaw drop!

    • Amit May 18, 2013 at 4:46 pm - Reply

      The fact is that even when they are in foreign lands such people crave to break the law. It is only the fear of jail that stops their hands.

  26. Roshni May 15, 2013 at 3:27 am - Reply

    My experience is that we strive to become whiter than the whites…apnaofying Halloween and Easter and cooking turkey at Thanksgiving, and of course, enrolling our children into ballet classes. No?!

    • Amit May 18, 2013 at 4:48 pm - Reply

      Even if we strive to do that, we don’t intend to let go our bad habits. We want the best of both the worlds. 🙂

  27. Indian Homemaker May 16, 2013 at 7:41 am - Reply

    And the saddest is sometimes when you are polite, courteous and accommodating, it is taken to mean you are weak. Why would you not put your precious little wants/comforts/time/taste buds/sight buds/nose buds/ first unless you have no power or connections?

    • Amit May 18, 2013 at 4:52 pm - Reply

      Of course. Why would we want traits that make us better humans?

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